TO THOSE WHO ARE DOING THE BEST THEY CAN YET DON'T FEEL RIGHT WITHIN, I see you.

Day to day life may look full, busy, successful and on the surface nobody may know what is going on for you within. But you know. You may be having troubles sleeping, relaxing, feeling pleasure or connection with those around.

Past experience has led you to feel you have to always be self-reliant. You have perhaps learned that showing vulnerability is not safe, it is hard to trust others or that if you don't take care of things they do not get taken care of. Being self reliant and independent are incredible strengths that have kept you safe, helped you handle problems on your own, offered a sense of control and predictability and led you to excel in some aspects of life. 

The trouble is the armour that has kept you safe can also lead to you feel exhausted, have difficulty relaxing and experience problems with your sleep. You may also feel isolated and less connected to those around you. At the core you may experience a sense of not being good enough. This in turn may impact on your actions for example it may lead you to avoid situations. You may set high standards or find it hard to say no. Despite best efforts you are caught in a loop of not feeling good enough. You have carried a lot on your own, for a long time and that load is now impacting, without a space where you feel seen, heard or understood the load feels too much.

Therapy is not about getting rid of your strengths but recognising opportunities where you may no longer need the armour in the same way and develop a way of flexibly navigating in the world that still feels authentic to you. You may feel stuck in a space of recognising the load feels too much and that sharing this feels risky, raises feelings of vulnerability or could undermine your sense of self or identity. I will go at your pace, take time to understand you and value your strengths. You are not alone, together we can explore what it feels like to be strong and supported without losing yourself. I will help you feel less stuck and support you bring about change that feels meaningful and authentic to you. 

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